might have figured it out, too late for today tho. when you go to sign in theres a little window pops up wanting your info w name/email & password. even if youve changed your acct pw you still have to change it again in that little window when you sign in later. thats not just something your browser saves, its the website saving your old pw too, so youre forced to change it every time.
in other words, i had a long pw that wouldnt fit in the nilla log in when i created the acct. ive since changed it to fit in the nilla log in, and also changed it on website as well, BUT:
even tho ive shortened pw, the website sign in still has old long pw saved on that little sign in window; so if nilla log in has my character name saved same as elysium website, its not gonna matter that i changed pw to fit nilla log in, as server thinks its the long pw that website sign in still has saved. so when server goes to log in my acct, it finds the name is same but new shorter pw i changed to doesnt match old long pw website sign in still has saved, of course telling me its wrong info.
so this is website/forum problem that needs to be fixed, has nothing to do with my end, as ive done everything i need to do correctly several times over to no avail yet still get told i give incorrect info at nilla log in. and if this isnt it, then apparently this is a sign that it isnt worth my time.