I am pretty sure that the Staff is working on some solution to the problem you've mentioned.
As for the long ques - unfortunately, there is not much to be done right now. The pop. cap has been already increased. There is also an ongoing discussion about the release of the 4th server, so I guess we have to be patient. I am sure that the Elysium Staff is doing their best to make the whole experience as best as it is possible, but they are only a team of volunteers, not a big corportion as Blizzard. Just be patient and give them some time. Also, you can always check other servers while waiting for the "fix" of the fresh start server.
And for the future - you don't have to log out to turn off or on your addons. Just download CS_AddOnOrganizer, so you could manage your addons from within the game.