Tormentillia

I'm a new player, and have verified my account, and my control panel is showing my character I've made, so I'm assuming everything is in server side. However, I get immediately disconnected upon logging into my character. I've tried creating a new character on another server, and the same thing happens. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Yes, the acct name and password is correct, and the server is up, as my boyfriend is waiting in game for me watching me jump in for a second, then sit as I get discoed. I have also tried deleting my WTF folder, to no avail. Also deleted WDB folder, still no go. Set to windowed, still no go. I get into the world for 1-2 seconds, then disco. Please help.

No go on the compatibility "use recommended settings"

Oh, and tried with both antivirus on and off.

Ok, still no go. Here's what I've done. I re-extracted the zipped file to the desktop. I've set the realmlist to the logon.xxx and the ip. I've set to run as admin. To get the mouse working I had to set at service pack 3 compatible. I've installed dx9. I've renamed the realmlist file to realmlist.wtf and back again. Everything is on the desktop. My boyfriend's pc logs into my account just fine. My boyfriend's acct is unable to log into my pc. I've run as windowed and non-windowed. I've deleted the WTF and WDB folders. All of these my boyfriend did in proper troubleshooting fashion (one at a time). Edit: for clarification, on both my bf and my acct, we can log in to the acct, and log into the world, but upon getting into the world, it goes back to login screen as disconnected. Maybe in the world for 1 second tops.

I've tried all this. It works on my boyfriend's pc but not mine. His acct won't work on mine either. Please help.